Es difícil cambiarse
de casa más aún cuando es a otro país, la búsqueda de nuevos puestos de trabajo
lleva a los padres a otras ciudades y a
otros países. 
Ante eso la familia
y en especial los niños deben
enfrentarse a hacer nuevos amigos y
tener que adaptarse a una cultura completamente diferente.
Como niño es difícil tener las herramientas emocionales para enfrentar la situación.
A veces la experiencia de tantos cambios puede
traer problemas de diferentes tipos, sin embargo con la ayuda y contención de
la mamá y el papá para
enfrentar ésta situación As a child, you experience all of these changes
and problems but at an age where you are far less emotionally and mentally
equipped to deal with them., la experiencia de todos estos desafíos se
pueden ir superando con mayor rapidez y
lograr una mejor apertura al nuevo mundo
de experiencias.
A
lot of children's issues are very similar to the ones that we as adults have,
the difference being that they are expressed in a much more public and much
more stubborn manner. Una gran cantidad
de problemas que los niños presentan a
veces son muy similares a los que nosotros, como adultos, debemos enfrentar,
con la diferencia que nosotros , sí contamos con las armas para enfrentarnos a
la nueva situación, de hecho muchas veces lo hacemos de una manera más pública,
extrovertida, o más rebelde, más esperanzadora y finalmente con motivaciones
personales que nos permiten sobrellevar
mejor el tema.
Aunque la realidad
es que sea probable que para ellos sea mucho más fácil que para usted hacer
amigos, decirles simplemente eso, por verdadero que sea… ¡no les ofrece consuelo!
Cuando llegan fuera
de época escolar, es bueno meterlos en talleres o Summer camp, eso les permitirá tener caras conocidas y familiares independientemente
de la cultura e idiomas especialmente a
la hora del nuevo año académico o simplemente generarles nuevos grupos de pares y amistades.
Regardless of the local culture and language, engaging your
children in sport or other clubs will allow them to have fun whilst also
meeting new, like-minded children as well.
Short term your children may not thank you for asking
them to stay longer at school but long term, when they're asking if their
friends can come round for hot dogs and football, they will do! You may want your child to maintain their current
interests, language and general cultural attitudes but it's also important that
they try and integrate into the local community. Es posible que quiera que
su hijo a mantenga sus intereses actuales, el lenguaje y las
actitudes culturales en general, pero también es importante ayudarlo a integrase a la nueva comunidad. The
immediate effect of this will be that they feel more comfortable in their
surroundings and will make friends much more easily.El efecto inmediato
de esto será que se sienten más cómodos en su entorno y podrán hacer amigos con mucha más facilidad.
Trate de conocer a los padres de los niños con los que
se está comenzando a relacionar y así podrán ir generando lazos más amplios y
usted tendrá la tranquilidad de que su niño va dejando atrás sus problemas
Sí es posible pasen tiempo en familia, pasen
tiempo con la mamá, con el papá, tengan el día del “sándwich” o el día del
aperitivo” etc., con la simple excusa de poder poner sobre el tapete lo que
cada uno de los niños está pensando y sintiendo, además de ser una gran
herramienta de pertenencia, en éste caso a la familia, no olvide él necesita PERTENECER,
ya fue desarraigado una vez.
Debe tener
paciencia, es un proceso largo, pero con su apoyo debe ser progresivo en el
tiempo, el que un niño se cambie de casa, pierda la mascota, pierda un amigo o
varios amigos, cambie de nana, en fin, cualquier cambio estructural en su vida,
por simple y doméstico que nos parezca, es lo que a nosotros los adultos un duelo, por
eso se recomienda, darle tiempo, contención, apoyo y brindarle nuevas redes. Ya
verá que en un par de meses el niño poco
a poco irá volviendo a ser el que era antes, es posible que siempre recuerde a
sus amigos y su casa, pero con cariño, no con dolor y dependiendo de los lazos
hechos con los padres y la edad de los niños podrá ayudarlo a mantener contacto
con aquellos que dejó atrás.
Por otro lado y de otra
forma, los beneficios que obtendrán a largo plazo y a través de los años con el
conocimiento de diferentes idiomas y culturas será siempre una ventaja en sus vidas,
sea cual sea el camino que escojan o decidan
seguir.
How to help kids
settle in a new country?
It is difficult indeed moving house to
another country when the search for new jobs leads parents to other cities and
countries.
Given that the family and especially children are faced to make new friends and having to adapt to a completely different culture.
As a child is difficult to have the emotional tools to cope.
Sometimes the experience of so many changes can lead to problems of different types, but with the help and control of mom and dad to face this situation, the experience of all these challenges can be overcome more quickly and better opening the new world of experiences.
A lot of children have problems that are sometimes very similar to what we, as adults, we must face, with the difference that we, yes we have the weapons to face the new situation, in fact many times we do a public way, outgoing, or more rebellious, more hopeful, and ultimately personal motivations that allow us to better deal with the issue.
Although the reality is that it is likely that they will be much easier for you to make friends, to say just that to be true ... it does not provide an answer!
When they get out of school time, it is good to put them in workshops or Summer Camp, that will give them familiar faces and families, regardless of culture and language especially when the new academic year, or simply create new peer groups and friendships.
You may want your child to keep their current interests, language and cultural attitudes in general, but it is also important to help integrate the new community. The immediate effect of this will be more comfortable in their surroundings and can make friends more easily.
Get to know parents of children that are starting to relate and then will start generating broader ties and you can rest assured that your child is leaving behind their problems
It is possible to spend time with family, spend time with mom, with dad, have the day of the "sandwich" or appetizer day "and so on., With the simple excuse to put on the table what each of the children are thinking and feeling, besides being a great tool for membership, in this case to the family, do not forget the need to belong, already been uprooted once.
You must have patience, it's a long process, but their support should be progressive in time, that a child changes from home, lost pet, lost a friend or several friends, change your nana, in short, any structural change in his life, and domestic simple it may seem, is what we adults to a duel, so it is recommended, give it time, containment, support and provide new networks. You'll see that in a couple of months the child will gradually returning to what it was before, you may always remember your friends and your home, but with love, not with pain and depending on the bonds made with parents and age can help children to maintain contact with those he left behind.
On the other hand and in another way, the benefits, long-term gain over the years with knowledge of different languages and cultures is always an advantage in life, whatever path they choose or choose to follow.
Given that the family and especially children are faced to make new friends and having to adapt to a completely different culture.
As a child is difficult to have the emotional tools to cope.
Sometimes the experience of so many changes can lead to problems of different types, but with the help and control of mom and dad to face this situation, the experience of all these challenges can be overcome more quickly and better opening the new world of experiences.
A lot of children have problems that are sometimes very similar to what we, as adults, we must face, with the difference that we, yes we have the weapons to face the new situation, in fact many times we do a public way, outgoing, or more rebellious, more hopeful, and ultimately personal motivations that allow us to better deal with the issue.
Although the reality is that it is likely that they will be much easier for you to make friends, to say just that to be true ... it does not provide an answer!
When they get out of school time, it is good to put them in workshops or Summer Camp, that will give them familiar faces and families, regardless of culture and language especially when the new academic year, or simply create new peer groups and friendships.
You may want your child to keep their current interests, language and cultural attitudes in general, but it is also important to help integrate the new community. The immediate effect of this will be more comfortable in their surroundings and can make friends more easily.
Get to know parents of children that are starting to relate and then will start generating broader ties and you can rest assured that your child is leaving behind their problems
It is possible to spend time with family, spend time with mom, with dad, have the day of the "sandwich" or appetizer day "and so on., With the simple excuse to put on the table what each of the children are thinking and feeling, besides being a great tool for membership, in this case to the family, do not forget the need to belong, already been uprooted once.
You must have patience, it's a long process, but their support should be progressive in time, that a child changes from home, lost pet, lost a friend or several friends, change your nana, in short, any structural change in his life, and domestic simple it may seem, is what we adults to a duel, so it is recommended, give it time, containment, support and provide new networks. You'll see that in a couple of months the child will gradually returning to what it was before, you may always remember your friends and your home, but with love, not with pain and depending on the bonds made with parents and age can help children to maintain contact with those he left behind.
On the other hand and in another way, the benefits, long-term gain over the years with knowledge of different languages and cultures is always an advantage in life, whatever path they choose or choose to follow.
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